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  • Get Off The Stress and Overwhelm Rollercoaster!

    Have you ever had one of those days?

    You know the ones you would rather forget.

    • Those days when you’ve got so much to do there’s a feeling of panic and tightness in your chest.
    • Those days when it seems everything is conspiring against you and you’re looking for a hidden camera because you feel so set up.
    • Those days when you’re so behind the curve, it feels like you’re wading through treacle.
    • Or even those days when you promise yourself you’re not going to shout at the kids but by 7:35 you’ve broken your promise!

    I have had plenty of those days, in fact there were times I had more of those days than the amazing days.

    Ah, the amazing days…

    • When I am so super organized that everything flows beautifully.
    • When I have time. Time to do the chores, time to ‘be’ with the kids, time to catch up with friends, time to do things I love too.
    • When I am so calm and relaxed, I can handle the tantrums, the squabbles and the mess, all with grace.
    • When I smile a lot and laugh often.

    The trouble with stress and overwhelm is that it builds up and up and the way we tend to deal with the overload is to try harder; we stay up later, we get up earlier, we move around faster and try and get things done more quickly. And for a short period of time, we’re on top of it again, but then the next load arrives and we’re back to overwhelm again.

    The good news is, there is a way off the ‘Stress and Overwhelm Roller Coaster’.

    To give mums the help they need, doing the most important job in the world – being mums, I have created a poster and audio with the Top 10 ways to reduce stress and overwhelm. I will share with you at the end how to get your free copy but first I’d like to reveal one of the key points behind these top tips.

    You see it’s not a question of doing more, it all starts with thinking differently. You need to make a simple shift in your beliefs that will cascade down and change your actions.

    And although it is simple, it’s a belief that most women have a great deal of trouble shifting. Are you ready?

    You are worth it.

    And that means;

    • You are worth the care, love and attention.
    • You are worth putting yourself first.
    • You are worth taking time out to do the things you love.

    We are programmed to put everyone else first because that’s what ‘good’ mums do, but if we keep putting everyone else’s needs ahead of our own we become depleted, worn out and exhausted. We can’t cope with all the jobs and roles we have to fulfill because we’re running on empty.

    You are worth it.

    So when I suggest that you put yourself first, do not think that you will make you a bad mum. In fact, you will be giving yourself the chance to be the best mum ever.

    Because let’s face it being a mum is the job that we want to do best. We all want to have fun with our kids, to cuddle them, listen to them, watch them.

    We want to be able to nurture them, guide them and help them to learn.

    When I was pregnant I imagined that I would be like Mary Poppins or Maria from The Sound of Music, as a mum. I envisioned days out cycling, climbing trees, singing and laughing. Fun was going to be a big part of motherhood for me, which is why I was so shocked and horrified to find I had turned into a shouty mum. Luckily I found a way to get off the stress and overwhelm roller coaster and my shouty moments are few and far between. And I know if I can do it so can you.

    So what can you do? Start by believing that you are worth it. Understand that by taking care of yourself, the whole family will benefit.

    Firstly start to lighten your load and the easiest way to do this is by following my 3 Ds.

    Firstly Decide what is important in your life. Really take time to work out what you must have in your life and identify your top 3-5 priorities. For example if you choose Family, Work and Health these would be the things you make time for on a regular basis.

    Everything else can go into the Ditch or Delegate pot. Is there anything that you can let go of to make time for the stuff you love? Who can you delegate some of the chores to? Now you probably won’t be able to get rid of it all but think outside the box and try and share as much of the load as you can.

    A few ideas may be to get your kids to help out around the house, have your shopping delivered, start a car-share for school pick up, get a cleaner.

    Get as creative as you can because You are worth it.

    If you would like to receive my Get Off The Stress And Overwhelm Roller Coaster; Poster and Audio – full of top tips and pretty enough to put on the wall, please email me at HappyWorkingMum@gmail.com with the words ‘YES please’ and I will send it to you straight away.

    Emily xx

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